assist in helping them break out of their shell because they wouldn’t be strong enough to survive if they did
Crack eggs? What? She started rattling off about some parenting guru guy that she followed and that “helicopter parenting”“Children need to be given the opportunity to fail. They need to be given the chance to make a mess. Parents who try to do everything for their kids inhibit their growth and then take away the chance for them to build strength and confidence through risk, to gain self-esteem and grow in their understanding of the world.” He recommended these different tasks at different ages that they should have the opportunity to try. At age three, let them crack eggs. Why? Because we don’t want them to….it’s messy, they get shell in the batter, they get dirty, egg gets on the floor, it’s a cooking hassle and we can just do that part so easily while they just dump in the flour we’ve measured. Because their fingers are little and fumbly, and they might squeeze it and ruin the whole cake! IF all of those things happened, would it really be a disaster? Or could he gain confidence and get better at this skill and others where his internal voice says, “I can do it. It’s ok, I can clean it up and try again.” So I tried it.
I said, “Today we are cooking and you get to crack the eggs.”
Elation from my son. I was truly a ridiculous wreckYour thoughts? Do you struggle with when to hang on or help and when to let them do things on their own? Let’s talk about it. The discussion starts below in the comments box. Stop back by after you leave your thoughts to see what other readers have said. Share this post with a friend who might like it too. Best, Ivy ]]>